"Healthy interpersonal relationships can be recognized by qualities such as empathy and concern for the feelings of others, a genuine interest in the ideas of others, the ability to tolerate ambivalence in long-term relationships without giving up and a capacity to acknowledge one's own contribution to interpersonal conflicts." - Glen Gabbard

It is common to want to live an undefended life, seeking the autonomy necessary to realize one’s potential. However, when we put two unique individuals together, one can often times lose site of the beauty of difference in our partner or friend.  Difficulties in relationships at every level are common experiences that can have negative consequences to our mental and physical health.  Conversely, relationships can also be positive influences in building stronger societies.  Working to make relationships successful, regardless of the nature of the relationship, is an essential part of mental health.

“Interpersonal relationships are the ultimate source of happiness or misery. Love has the potential to generate intense pleasure and fulfillment or produce considerable pain and suffering.”

- R. Firestone

Individuals typically desire and communicate the need for love, but often times behave in ways that are incompatible with receiving and giving true love.  Therapy can help partners overcome the reasons that relationships fail by understanding the ways our parts are protecting us from the very things that make us unique and lovable.  Connection and authenticity open us to the possibilities of living a less defended lifestyle that promotes attachment, love, and understanding.